性和爱有何关系呢？

那一天的午餐三个女人忽然就谈起了心事。因为我的s colleague说她很想离婚因为她感到对这一段的婚姻已经死心，闷倦了很像回到一个人生活，她忽然说她已经三年没和她老公。。。。。她就说不知道是不是这样感情疏远了。Then i have another colleague miss M said that she should tell her husband what she 'needs' instead of keep quiet over there. 坐在一边的我只好静静地听。She still dare to say that no matter where they go, in front got friends or family they also won't care what peoples think of them, they feel like want to kiss then even in front got how many ppl they oso dun mind. 说实话，我并不同意她们的说法也问了她们一道问题，‘为什么要通过性爱才说有爱呢‘？Then they just answer me ‘因为越做就越爱‘。当时的我很对她们神经病，because in my opinion i feel that if a person is love you, it is come from their heart and we really can feel it without doing such 'thing'. If a person is going to change means they will change also no matter how, impossible you bcoz of that 'thing' you can keep the person's heart.



你爱一个人只要对方知道就好了，不需要让全世界的人知道反而越秀恩爱的人其实在她们都是有问题。我真的很多东西很不明白为什么她们要这样做。她们也问了我已经很我的hubby同居了吗？我也很直接说没有啊，哪有什么问题呢？aiyo, on that time they give me a very nonsense reason, they told me that if you want to understand a person more deep and how is the lifestyle you must move to his house or stay with him then only you can understand the person.OMG what a suck reason is that? I totally numb and feel that i better keep quiet because our perception totally different. 我身边很多朋友都同居了，可是为什么到最后又为什么会是分手的结果呢？Many things really hard to say de, so you can't teach me what should i do in my relationship.

I tell them a very funny thing and i don't think that every couples will face this problem. Me and my hubby 2gether 4 years already, no matter we go where with whom, both of us will not hold hand.Do u believe?? Yes, both of us really do so. Last time when i went Malacca with his family, his mother also keep asking us 'y we din hold hand', then i just told his mother we already biasa like that, just like we have our own ways to walk. But they told me that, why my problem with him sound like so serious?? Another question come across my mind? What so serious and what is the problem? This is our lifestyle and we 2 also feel okie with this kind of lifestyle so means no problem.

Yes, everybody have different lifestyle and perception, i can't say that your guys de lifestyle got problem or wrong, but i just know that i have my own lifestyle in my relationship, no matter what thing that you told me i will not get influence. This 'topic' i already listened since when i secondary school and my thinking on 'it' still the same. I just believe 缘份 if the person really belong to you, you no nid to spend anything or through that 'thing' or dun even hold him or she tight in the end she also beside you but on the other hand, if the person really not belong to you no matter how tight you hug or you do, he or she also will leave you.